As of late, I’ve seen a lot of people talking about the
latest movie to hit theaters, “Think Like A Man”. Granted, I have not seen it
but apparently one of the big things in the movie is the 90 Day Rule which
basically states any man that is worth is weight will wait 90 days for a woman
to give up her cookies. And virtually the same for women. Now…everyone has
their own feelings on these rules and I’m just stating how I feel about it. Of
course, I’d love to hear others opinions as well so let’s get into this!
Personally, I hate that some people
try and put a "time limit" on it. If you loose in the booty, you
loose. That goes for men and women alike. Now, I think that being loose in the
booty (and I say this to avoid using the word “hoe” but you can say whatever
you like) is a mindset. When you go out, you’re going out with the idea in
mind, you’re gonna be getting some from someone that night and it doesn’t
really matter who. This isn’t a bad thing per say and if this is the lifestyle
you live or have lived, then do you. Just be safe and wrap it up. People are
surely crazy out there. Some people grow out of this phase and some don’t. Like
I said before, whatever floats your boat but be safe.
However, if it's a person you feel a
true connection with and they feel the same, fuck it. Wait or don't wait. Some
chemistry can't be denied. Some people just meet and click in alllllll
the right ways. I was one of those fortunate few with my current boyfriend. Let
me say, this is an awesome thing if it happens to you. Anywho, at this point,
you two can really try and make that deeper (and by deeper I mean lower, wink,
wink) level connection or continue to wait things out. See how you feel after
few more dates and maybe no drinks. If things continue on a good path but it’s
less than 90 days, are you really in the “wrong” for wanting to participate in
the horizontal tango? I think not.
Long story short, they’re your
cookies and you can do what you want with them. Don’t let society or stigmas or
whatever clog up your brain to make you think you’re a bad person if you pass
out your cookie after 1 night or 132 nights. At the end of the day, I can only
stress to be careful out there and do what makes you happy ladies (and
gentlemen)













Well said, Terra. I'm sick of people wanting to put everyone in the same box. Grown folks can do what grown folks wanna do. If a woman wants to give up the cookies on the first date, then that's on her. If a guy wants to slang his thang on night one, then that's on him. I just feel like both parties need to be honest about their expectations and don't cry foul when things don't work out the way they want.
ReplyDeleteAs far as that movie? I can't stand Steve Harvey and am not trying to support anything related to his current bout of bullshittery. But that's me.
Bullshittery ! lol
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